A Writer is Born

A Writer is Born

In my first Jyotish reading in LA, maybe 40 years ago, the astrologer talked about how far reaching my writing would become. I had no point of reference for what he was saying and no impulse to write. Having spent most of college days at the potter’s wheel, I couldn’t recall writing a single paper.

Years passed. The recording of that reading was long forgotten in a drawer. I was living in a meditating community surrounded by good friends. I had a great job, wonderful employer, apartment with floor to ceiling windows and handmade lace curtains, and I just bought my first new car. Life was good.

Until it wasn’t. Until it felt like my seams were unraveling. Day after day I had this feeling, this inner prompting, that I had to do more with my life. But more what?

Without knowing what the future held, I left that life behind to find an answer. I quit the job, gave up the apartment, sold the car, but kept the friends. And went to India, where I began to write and write and write. I haven’t stopped since.

When the thought to write a book was enlivened, I had no idea how to begin. Fortunately, nature intervened. The words just poured out.

But how does one go from writing to publishing? Today, with information at our fingertips, I imagine it is easier for new writers to get their footing. It was not easy for me to get mine. It was a long learning curve.

Finding a gifted editor who force-fed me grammar helped. (Thank you, Jim F.)

Finding a talented and kind graphic artist also helped. These days most graphic artists work on their own, but this generous artist let me watch her work. Aside from having an adorable bird sitting on my knee each session, I began to see how books are constructed, details about layout, etc. In short, I was educated. I’m forever grateful. (Thank you, Liz H.)

I found a publisher interested in my first book right away. When they suggested there were changes they wanted me to make, I declined their offer. In retrospect, it’s likely their ideas would have enhanced the book. I’ll never know because I never took the time to listen.

Why? Because I felt guided to put those words on paper, and there wasn’t anything I wanted to change. I began to explore self-publishing where I could make all my own decisions. The rest is history.

In short, it took two months to write my first book and two years until I held a copy in my hand.

Since then, I’ve written two more books but I’ve never taken a writing class. The closest I came was when I was living in Venice, California. A friend invited me to sit in on a few of her writing classes in Marina Del Ray taught by an exceptional teacher named Bernard Selling.

I was invested in writing lyrics at the time and never signed up for Bernard’s class. Decades later, that experience became a milestone in my life. You can read more about it in my blog Psychic Whispers.

Cancer Diary 2025

Cancer Diary 2025

September 1, 2025 Cancer Diary

I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer around March or April 2025 and received a lumpectomy and breast reduction May 1st. (The latter was to compensate for the former.) These past few months have been intense. I am deeply grateful for the kindness of doctors and their staff, combined with the support of friends and family on a GoFundMe page put up by two angels. One is a long-term friend; the other is a new angel in my life. I appreciate their efforts, especially with so many unexpected expenses.

Still, it’s an unsettling ride. Healing from surgery was tender, followed by inflammation and an on-going rash with no known cause. Next came physical therapy. Then radiation. Two weeks later I had an adverse reaction. Distressing. Painful. Soon the nerve pains began. Doing better now. Meeting with an Oncologist this week while continuing to take an herbal formula prescribed by a Naturopath who specializes in cancer. Feeling inward. Keeping my cell ringer off for the most part. I can easily see why people get overwhelmed in this situation. Doing what I can to stay centered. Meditating regularly helps. Practicing self-care. Thankful for my faith.

Cancer Gift

Cancer Gift

I was raised by a lovely giver and became a giver myself. I recall my first job after college (many years ago) at the Lighthouse for the Blind in San Francisco, a sheltered workshop for visually impaired and hearing impaired adults. On my lunch hour I did volunteer work at the Salvation Army. It was an older building, so the friendly nun who worked there would buy me big poster boards and markers. I’d draw colorful pictures with inspirational sayings under them to brighten up the walls.

Honestly, I always thought my giving nature was one of my best qualities.

Then I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Although insurance covered the major cost of surgeries and medical visits, there were numerous co-pays and unforeseen expenses that began to mount up. A caring friend suggested putting up a GoFundMe page.

While I have done my share of outreach and fund-raising for others, doing it for myself was a different matter. The idea of talking about my personal health and asking for financial help in a public arena was equivalent to an invitation to go mountain climbing, something I do not plan on doing in this lifetime or the next.

Months went by. My friend kept asking, and I kept saying I will think about it. Meanwhile, a number of you encouraged me to say yes.

Finally my well-meaning friend asked me why I find it so difficult to receive. I asked myself the same question. Why am I so resistant to asking for help when I am so willing to offer it? And why can’t I take care of myself financially?

The last question is easier to answer than the former. It’s a combination of circumstances that some of you may be familiar with. As a full-time caregiver for my beautiful mother, we lived modestly on two incomes. When she passed the expenses remained the same, only I was down to one income. At the same time, the years of caregiving took a toll. I was tired and inward. I hardly left the house for a year, then two, maybe more.

Was I working? Yes, I worked from home an average of six days a week before this unexpected cancer diagnosis. Right now I am close to finishing the redesign for my first three book interiors and covers. But creativity doesn’t necessarily translate to financial success unless you actively promote yourself.

As it happens, before my mother’s needs became demanding I consulted for other authors, helping them with all aspects of writing and publishing. And every time a new client called, the first thing they asked was if I could help them market their books. It was like a cosmic joke because I never excelled at marketing my own.

Wait. Could my resistance to putting up a GoFundMe page have something to do with my failure to promote myself aggressively? Am I, a self-help author and professed seer of energy, unaware of my own resistance and secretly harboring low self-worth?

When I was first diagnosed with breast cancer, I had the thought there might be a gift in this situation. Is this it?

This cancer experience has changed me. Humbled me. I acknowledge that giving comes naturally. I acknowledge that I have not (past tense) been as open about receiving. I’m working on it. Deep breath. Arms open wide. We all know the drill.

I finally said yes to the GoFundMe page and will share the link. Also, I am ready to promote myself and be proactive about marketing my books. Maybe not right away but once I deal with the physicality of my current situation.

If you feel called to help me, I am deeply grateful. (Link at bottom of screen.)

In conclusion, we are all engaged in a giant game of expansion and contraction, where the places we move forward and the places we hold back (resist) shape our reality.

Fortunately, healing is within our grasp. So if anyone reading this can relate to my experience, may I suggest you also practice saying ‘YES’ when someone offers you their help.

 

Cancer Diagnosis

Cancer Diagnosis

My cancer diagnosis arrives by phone. The first thing I do is pull up a picture of Jesus on my computer and look him in the eyes. He speaks to me as clear as a bell. “Magic is underfoot,” he says.

Moments later I receive a text from a healer I’d reached out to saying that he can see me the next day. Followed by a text from my neighbor saying that she can drive me the four hours to see him the next day. My faith has not wavered since.

I am inspired by the visit to the healer. A firm reminder that our bodies have restorative powers. I decide positivity is the best medicine.

I’m 74 years old and don’t take any medication. I attribute it to being a long-term meditator, twice a day for over fifty years. When I am under the weather, I prefer herbalists or homeopaths or chiropractors to traditional doctors. Suddenly finding myself in a medical drama facing life or death choices is challenging.

Every interaction I have with doctors, surgeons, nurses, office staff, technicians is caring and professional. I am humbled to receive that level of personal attention.

As for those serious choices, I have spent a lifetime relying on my intuition so that is what I do. I listen within. When the answer isn’t clear, I take advice from a knowledgeable friend (a scientist) and a naturopath (who developed a synergistically blended formula to address hormone mediated cancers to keep them from proliferating).

There are a lot of decisions over the next few months. When my inner light is green, I take the doctor’s suggestions. When it’s red, I don’t. As you can imagine, it’s not easy to go against medical advice.

In the end I agree to surgery. Prior to going into the operating room, I see a TV mounted on the wall with changing nature scenes. I hear Jesus speak through the screen. He says, “I am in the doctor’s hands.”

In spite of the heart-warming message, when they roll me into the operating room I have a break with reality, convinced I’ve stumbled onto the set of Grey’s Anatomy.

Two months pass. Many friends become angels.

I say yes to physical therapy and radiation. Physical therapy is a learning experience. I like it.

Radiation is painless at first except for the position you’re poised in depending on your situation. In my case, my neck and shoulder are compromised. In the morning my whole body hurts. I pray for relief. Something sweeps over me as gentle as a summer’s breeze. My discomfort fades.

I receive radiation for several weeks. Things get complicated. I get a skin rash that spreads. The doctors and nurses are beyond kind. I’d call them regal. They assure me the rash is not related to the treatment. That doesn’t stop the sleepless nights or calm the irritation.

Next, I have trouble swallowing and nerve pain. I am told these are temporary side effects, along with severe redness.

Understanding helps. I discover the reason my neck is placed in that uncomfortable position is to safeguard my esophagus, which lies close to the lymph nodes the radiation is targeting. Evidently it can still cause inflammation, but if you’re reading this and about to get treatment yourself, try not to worry. It may not happen to you. Now I purée my food.

Fortunately my swallowing improves. Another side effect appears. It’s scary. I feel my positivity wobble. Thank you Google. Knowledge is comforting. It doesn’t take away the pain but it helps to give a name to my experience. I see my radiation oncologist. The situation begins to resolve.

I ring the bell at the women’s cancer center. A lovely man with one of those toy bubble-maker guns fills the air with bubbles while others clap. The healing begins.

A Life Well Lived

A Life Well Lived

My mother was a true earth angel. When she lived in New York, in addition to being a devoted wife and mother, she volunteered at an orphanage. She was an active member of Cancer Care, spending hours compiling their newsletter with a manual typewriter and plenty of whiteout. She made weekly phone calls to shut-ins, people whose disabilities prevented them from leaving their homes. She visited the Veteran’s Hospital regularly and Creedmoor, a large facility for the mentally impaired. She volunteered at a local public school tutoring children in math and language skills. And she was a civil rights activist committed to freedom and equality. As a child I recall standing with her in a packed auditorium singing “We Shall Overcome” led by Martin Luther King.

When she moved to Florida after my father passed, mom immersed herself in meaningful activities. A gifted singer, she’d performed for the troops in World War II and in Vaudeville. With her life-long passion for singing, she joined the Choraleers and was a regular at Marie’s Sing-A-Long. She attended Temple B’nai Shalom, arriving early each week to set up refreshments, going on to receive their Woman of the Year Award. She joined a group that visited local residents who were hospitalized until the Privacy Act interrupted their visits. She was a member of Jewish War Veterans and We Care, going on weekly visits to those in need of companionship. She often encouraged people to attend bereavement support groups. If they were hesitant to go alone, she would go with them. She was an active member of the Democratic Club, making calls to encourage others to vote well into her nineties. For seven years, she volunteered several days a week at Focal Point Pre-school with children ages 4-5 yrs., taking the bus at 9:00 am each morning and returning by the same route each afternoon. When the school decided she was a fall risk because of her advanced age, she and her friends began to sing for Alzheimer’s patients. (They called themselves Bea’s Bunch, and they called her Honey Bea.) After each performance, using her walker mom would go around the room and hug each of the participants. That was her favorite part. She did it until she was 99 years old.

When Hurricane Wilma hit in 2005, there was plenty to be distressed about living on the fourth floor. The roof was damaged. When it rained outside, it rained inside. Along with many of neighbors, for weeks we had no electricity. No refrigeration. No cooking. No air conditioning. Throughout it all, she focused on what she had to be grateful for. If something was broken, she was grateful for whatever she had that wasn’t.

Bea Rosner did not know how to look down. She only knew how to look up. Her satisfaction came from knowing she made a difference in someone else’s life, knowing that a caring word or gesture, no matter how big or small, brought a smile or a ray of hope. When she went to bed at night, her heart was full because she shared it. In the morning she was ready to begin again, spreading kindness wherever she went. Her legacy? In over a century she never said an unkind word about anyone.

My mother, Beatrice, passed peacefully in her home in Deerfield Beach, Florida on February 17,2022 with my brother and I by her side. For several days prior to her passing, she appeared to be in a trancelike sleep with her eyes tightly closed. Yet even in that withdrawn state, using what little energy she had, she raised her arms high up in the air and waved them around with a big smile from ear to ear. A gesture she repeated over and over and over.

To an observer, it was obvious she was communicating with someone. Perhaps it was her loving husband, or her mother and father, or her sisters and brother, or one of the many family members and friends who departed before her, coming to welcome her home. A mystical reminderwe will all be united with our loved ones when heaven calls.

Meditation

Meditation

I have been practicing the Transcendental Meditation technique for over fifty years. I meditate once in the morning upon rising and again in the late afternoon or early evening before dinner. When I first began, I meditated for twenty minutes twice a day. Soon after I began an advanced program called the TM-Sidhi Program, which requires a longer commitment daily.

Out of all the things that I do for myself, I consider the time I spend meditating the most valuable. Although my meditations are enjoyable, I meditate for the benefits I receive afterwards. Even when I am engaged in dynamic activity, a feeling of silence and calm permeate my day. I feel intimately connected to all of life around me. I attribute this inner tranquility and sense of well being to my regular meditation practice.

I feel relaxed and refreshed after every meditation. It is also time I give to myself, a way to be fully present with who I am. For me, it is like having a direct line to the subtle dimensions of consciousness.

We all have the potential to contact the divine. I have found that connection clearer by taking an inward dive on a daily basis. It’s similar to a plant drawing nourishment from the soil. By tapping into our own internal resources, we are nourished from within and an awareness begins to flower. The result? A feeling of positivity without becauses.

In 2007 Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, the founder of the Transcendental Meditation Program, transitioned, leaving behind a rich legacy. If you’d like to learn more about this effortless way to dissolve stress and expand your consciousness, attend a free introductory lecture in your area, or call: 1.888.LEARN TM.

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